Every year 12,000 people in the UK die alone and their bodies are not found for some time later. My brother was a loner and when he died his body was not discovered for 2 months, is being a loner such a good thing?
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Re: loners who die alone.
Sun, May 25, 2008 - 6:58 PMi know thats difficult.
and yet I suspect I'm not the only loner who believes he is NOT "alone", when I'm without other humans physically present..
Dying is got to be the toughest transition, but in some sects in Buddhism it is beleived that it is your state of mind at the time of death that matters: If you have a happy, present mind that accepts the way there are, then you can have a happy death.
There are stories of people who shortly before passing see a long lost deceased relative.
This must be no consolation if you are an atheist, or a secular humanist who thinks that at death its basically "End of game, lights out",, but Im not.
so i've shared my little two cents, I'll see what others have to say.
best,
Ede K
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Sun, May 25, 2008 - 8:54 PMHi. Well, I think in life, yes, being a Loner is a vey good thing, if your up to it, and if it's yor thing, and when you die, people might want to die alone, as they loved alone. You know? Not that I'm disrespecting you coment or opinion or anything.
But, depending how fast or slowly and under what conditions people died under, they might have a choice to call/ tell people, and they might choose not too. And, when loners die, they don't care what happends to the body since no ones home, you know?
Sorry your brother died. And sorry for the person/ people who found him.
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Sun, May 25, 2008 - 8:56 PMYa Ede K, I agree with you.I know I'm not alone, when I'm alone in body. Like yesterday... Anyways...
Cya.
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Wed, May 28, 2008 - 8:33 AMThanks for your sympathy, when my brother died he had £25,000 in his flat but what good was it to him if he had no-one to share it with.
When people die like that it makes their life seem pointless, it was as if he had never existed. -
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Re: loners who die alone.
Wed, May 28, 2008 - 11:26 AMwas your brother an unhappy loner, would you say?
It's so hard to measure the value of a human life...i feel like it's really impossible.
Im my little belief, we're all here to learn some lessons, and I'm sorry if you feel your brother's death made his life seem pointless......i understand that feeling, but do you really beleive it was?
best,
Ed K.
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Re: loners who die alone.
Wed, May 28, 2008 - 2:51 PMSorry about your brother.
I don't get the comment about the money and it being no good because he had nobody to share it with. I live alone and likely when I die the body will not be found for a long long time, I am actually hoping tat I die outdoors in a remote area and hte body is never found at all.
I have some money saved for my retirement and since there is no way to know when I will die if I planned right there will be some left over at the end. I think it was very good of your brother to have some money left after he died so that he would not be a financial burden to you for his funerals etc.
I don't think the value of your brother's life is related to the number he shared it with or whether or not he is remembered. Look at it this way after a couple of generations even people who were very social are not remembered anymore by people alive, does their life loose value at that point? Obviously not.
I hope that your brother was happy and if he was his life was a greater success than most.
Loners are Ok with being loners. I know I am prepared and Ok with dying alone and being forgotten probably even before I die.
I'm sorry for your lose.
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Re: loners who die alone.
Wed, May 28, 2008 - 9:54 PMHey Mark. your welcome.
Here. It's on the topic. It might trigger you. (Make you feel not so nice...)
www.katdowney.com/upload/Ka...h_Poem.pdf
Blackloner -
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Re: loners who die alone.
Mon, June 2, 2008 - 4:26 AMSorry for being late in replying to your posts, i would like say once again ,thanks for your comments i have found them them helpful.
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