Sounds perfectly fair to me!! I can totally relate.

If you are new here, welcome!

Hi. Nice to see a few other people here, such as you.

I'm probably much older than you are. I didn't understand how much a loner I was when I was young... I married, and had children, and spent a lot of time feeling trapped because there were people around all the time and I was obligated to interact.

I think I did a good job with the children, though, being their mother--the maternal hormones help out with that. :) But I'm glad they're grown and I'm alone again.

So here we are. It IS nice to know we're not the only one, isn't it?

--Anne

Regarding your lack of desire for marriage: I too do not want to get married. I have never really understood why people do that (other than for religous reasons). I can almost identify with wanting to go through some kind of formal ritual with someone after which she and I would be somehow transformed into a special union that we were not before that act. However, I just don't think that that's how it is supposed to work. Some people, I think, get married because they want to make sure that they stay with a person long-term... maybe ast long as possible... To me THIS is very wrong; one should stay with someone as long as one loves/wants to be with them and they feel the same about you. Just because it's written on paper or whatever doesn't make it love, ya' know?
I can also identify with your statement about not wanting a girlfriend. Although I myself would like sometimes to have a girl that I could talk to WHEN I WANTED TOO, it would be a major pain to me for me to have an actual girlfriend. I can see in my mind the word "girlfriend" just now written in big letters and looming over me like some kind of immense beast or burden. I would be such a heavy burden for me to know that I was involved with someone who would be upset when I would express the need to be alone.

Hello and Welcome. I am new too.

As I have stated in a previous post many people tell me that "deep down you really do want to be with someone, get married and maybe even have kids." A few of my therapists have even told me this.

As a little girl and stlil to do this day at times I believe I am from another planet put on earth as punishment for something or other! Yikes - all these people, all this society, all their "rules" and morality and mob mentality of togetherness.

I too get bored with people very easily. I will stand there, smile and nod my head and think to myself "shut the eff up, I want to go now." I am glad you shared about your seemingly "lack of empathy." For me, when people say so and so died, or so and so has cancer, etc. it does not affect me, I do not get teary eyed and at one time I thought it was because I was selfish and self-centered, but I realize I just don't have a close tie with humanity. Most people are dull adn close minded. Most people talk only about other people and their activities through the day. Who cares if Jonnie peed his pants or Laura got all A's. My co-workers have stopped asking me what I did on the weekend, no on seems to care what we do in solitary company, like it doesn't count or something, .

I never really had the notion, and if I ever did it's gone now, of getting married and having kids although I do enjoy children more than adults (for a little while anyway)

We are who we are. Neither good or bad - we just are.

Nancy.